Fear and Resilience

In a most recent time of transition, I’ve recollected a little something…

Fear is a solo emotion. Hope, on the other hand, is a communal attitude.

Fear is a lock the doors, shut the windows impulse which just surrounds you in the dark when you so desperately need light. Many years back, on a very sad day for my family which in hindsight was even more traumatic than imagined at the time, on a gut  instinct, I kept a family commitment and took us all out and kept that promise.

In my most recent transition, I did not reach out for any sense of drama with those on the periphery of my life.  I figure if they were to be on the other side of the transition they would be there.  If not, there was no reason to reason to force the situation.  Nonetheless, I doubled-down on family and my closest connections and discovered some new ones along the way.  Most importantly, I intentionally got out and about when every instinct demanded a hunkering down.

hopeThere has been a vacation time or two, service to others in times of their mourning or celebrations of new life (and not my own,) service to other built upon my expertise, and a uniquely wonderful celebration of Thanksgiving in a moment when others might forget gratitude.

In a retrospection of the Boston Marathon bombing, it was suggested that Optimism is at the center of resilience and that Resilience is about connectedness. Hope, it seems, truly is a communal attitude.

Fear is the solo walk through the graveyard on a cold, dark Halloween night.  Hope is recognizing that you every day walk in communion with God’s holy ones in the illumination of All Saints’ Day. Choose Hope.

 

D. Scott Miller

D. Scott Miller is the dean of Catholic Youth Ministry bloggers which is a polite way of either saying that he is just plain old or has been blogging for a long time (since 2004.)

Scott recently married the lovely Anne and together they have five adult young people and also grandparent three delightful kids (so, maybe he is just plain old!) Scott presently serves at Saint John the Evangelist in Columbia, MD as the director of youth and young adult ministry.

He has previously served on the parish, regional, diocesan, and national levels as well as having taught within a catholic high school. He is one of the founders of RebuildMyChurch and has returned to posting regularly (keeping regular is important to old guys) at ProjectYM.


D. Scott Miller


D. Scott Miller is the dean of Catholic Youth Ministry bloggers which is a polite way of either saying that he is just plain old or has been blogging for a long time (since 2004.)

Scott recently married the lovely Anne and together they have five adult young people and also grandparent three delightful kids (so, maybe he is just plain old!) Scott presently serves at Saint John the Evangelist in Columbia, MD as the director of youth and young adult ministry.

He has previously served on the parish, regional, diocesan, and national levels as well as having taught within a catholic high school. He is one of the founders of RebuildMyChurch and has returned to posting regularly (keeping regular is important to old guys) at ProjectYM.



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