It’s OK to Say No

Feelin over-scheduled? Stretched too thin? Trying to be in too many places at the same time?

We’ve found the answer –––– JUST SAY NO!

It’s Ministry. It’s our Passion. It’s our Faith. It’s our Vocation. It’s the right thing to do. It’s rewarding. It’s frustrating. It’s challenging. It’s life-changing. So, is it ever ok to say no?

Yes. Yes it is.

Each of us is created in a unique image and likeness of God. Each with unique gifts and talents we are to share in good stewardship with others.

Youth Ministers: it’s time to remember that even God rested on the 7th day!

I’m a mother, a wife, a sister, a friend, a daughter, a neighbor, a youth minister, a catechist – a child of God. How is it possible to balance all of these titles in a human 24 hour period and still respect the frailty of my human body?

I need to learn to say NO. It’s a simple word – 2 letters, one syllable. Why can’t I utter it? Why do I feel I need permission to say no?

YMs, we need to unite and acknowledge and give each other permission that it is OK to say No.

No does not mean never or I don’t care about you or I don’t think that program will work. No does not mean I’m not willing to help or I’m a selfish person.

Saying no to someone’s request of your personal time means – I value my time with my family and personal one-on-one time with them is critical to preserving my ability to do ministry in the future.

No means I recognize it’s time to step back and allow someone else to share their gifts .

No means I need to take time and bring this request to my God. I value the importance of personal prayer so that I can properly hear and understand where God wants me to be.

Saying no also recognizes that involving my family IN the ministry is not personal, quality time WITH my family. It’s ok to separate the two at times.

With everything else we do – let’s take this to prayer. Let’s sit quietly, by ourselves, and listen for the answer – don’t forget to turn off your cell phone, iPad, laptop, desktop, and door-bell. Lock your door and turn off the light so no one knows where you are. Ask for that permission to simply say NO and to give yourself the gift of personal time.

Barbara McNulty

Barbara is a full time Wife for 21 years and has 3 beautiful young adult daughters. She's a cradle Catholic and have volunteered within the Church for as long as she can remember. Been working within Youth Ministry about 8 years. Barbara's favorite place to be is Disney. Her favorite international spot is Ireland. While she loves listening to music, she can not sing or play an instrument. Her college degree is in International Business - which has nothing to do with her present vocation as Youth Minister. When she can't sleep, she likes to write - she considers herself a 'midnite typist'. Favorite Disney phrase: Hakuna Matata.

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