We often get ourselves “knotted” up into all sorts of situations. It’s easy to imagine that we have just fallen into these moments, but the reality is that we often freely choose to willing engage into being caught up into the knot… We would never choose the knot itself, but we do choose to cling onto the strand, the rope, the whatever that seems so darn important to our self-identity, our “happiness’, our own perceived needs at that moment.
Happens to me all the time… and probably to you as well. Here’s three things I do to get unknotted.
My stomach is in knots, my emotions are in a jumble… You may not fully appreciate this Disney-ish advise, but Let It Go. In Frozen, the song reminds that “It’s funny how some distance
makes everything seem small and the fears that once controlled me can’t get to me at all.” The mountain that is breaking you right now might evolve into a molehill in your personal history. Don’t become overwhelmed by the journey before you as much as conscious of the essential next steps that you are about to take… and then step up and step into solutions.
Start at an End
I’ve found it usually more difficult to untangle something from the middle of the muddle. This usually forces me to start at an end. In terms of situations, either I have to go back to the very beginning, discern my knotty mis-steps and attempt to resolve and correct them along the way. Another solution is to follow the Stephen Covey effective habit to “begin with the end in mind.” Instead of starting at the beginning end of the knot, start at the finalizing end… where you want to be and work the solutions that way.
Of course, but did you know that we have a model, an intercessor for our prayers… and it is one of Pope Francis’ favorites as well. He saw the image of Mary Untier of Knots while in Germany as a student and promoted her veneration in Latin America. The concept of Mary untying knots is derived from a work by St. Irenaeus of Lyons, Adversus haeresus (Against Heresies). In Book III, Chapter 22, he presents a parallel between Eve and Mary, describing how “the knot of Eve’s disobedience was loosed by the obedience of Mary. For what the virgin Eve had bound fast through unbelief, this did the virgin Mary set free through faith.”
No matter how knotted life becomes, we know one thing: nothing is impossible for God’s mercy! Even the most tangled knots are loosened by his grace.