Playing the Comparison Game?

Recently, I was listening to a very practical podcast that was supposed to help me become more productive and get better at my ministry and life. However, instead of feeling helped, I actually felt frustrated.

I found myself thinking, “I can’t do that. There’s no way I can do what he suggests.” I felt inadequate and unable to do what he was recommending. I could never do that or be like him. I quickly dismissed that entire podcast and labeled it, ‘unhelpful.’

As I reflected back on my feelings that day, I discovered why I felt frustrated at his podcast. I actually wanted to be like him. He is a blogger and podcaster who I respect a lot and has helped me tremendously.

I was playing the comparison game. He was able to do the things he suggested on his podcast and I could not. I was jealous of who he was and the impact he was having.

As I continued to think on the podcast and the helpful suggestions he shared, I changed my way of thinking. Instead of feeling inadequate, I started to notice the specific strengths that he had that I didn’t have.

But I don’t need his strengths.

I have my own and they are different than his. That’s why I felt frustrated.

I think you and I think this type of thought more than we care to admit. Especially in a world of social media, blogs, YouTube, and podcasts, it is easy for anyone to let the world know about the great stuff that they are doing. That is a great thing!

Until I start to compare myself with them.

In this particular circumstance, where I was comparing myself to the host of the podcast I was listening to, there was only one solution:

Focus on my strengths and gifts.

The older I get, the more I recognize what I am good at and what I am terrible at. And I’m discovering a nasty truth: I am terrible at way more things than I am good at. But that’s okay, because the things I am good at allow me to bless the world in my own unique way.

God gave me certain gifts. They are different than that podcast host. My strengths and gifts allow me to create my own unique impact in the world. God doesn’t need me to try and be someone else. God already has that person.

God needs me to be me. That’s who I am created to be.

Next time I start comparing myself to another person, I need to remember that.

Question: What strengths and gifts has God given you so that you can make your unique impact in the world?

John Rinaldo

As the Business Manager at St. Catherine Catholic Church in Morgan Hill, CA, Dr. John Rinaldo serves as the administrator over operations and finances for the parish in support of all parish ministries. Previously, John served as the Director of Youth and Young Adult Ministry for the Diocese of San Jose, empowering parish communities to minister to the needs of youth and young adults. John is also an adjunct professor at Santa Clara University teaching pastoral ministry courses to graduate students.


John Rinaldo


As the Business Manager at St. Catherine Catholic Church in Morgan Hill, CA, Dr. John Rinaldo serves as the administrator over operations and finances for the parish in support of all parish ministries. Previously, John served as the Director of Youth and Young Adult Ministry for the Diocese of San Jose, empowering parish communities to minister to the needs of youth and young adults. John is also an adjunct professor at Santa Clara University teaching pastoral ministry courses to graduate students.



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