Redefine the Win


Let’s dive right into Mark chapter 4, right in the middle of the story.

Jesus has spent the day teaching the crowds in parables. He hit some of his more famous one: The Parable of the Sower, The Parable of the Lamp, and The Parable of the Mustard Seed. It’s been a good day. It’s been a busy day. Crowds and crowds of people heard Jesus preach that day. His message had reached multitudes. And as the day comes to end, Mark tells us of a couple other stories that happened that night.

I want to focus on just one of those stories.

It’s a story that most people have never heard. And those of us who have, well we’ve probably written it off as one of those crazy “Jesus stories”. You know, things that Jesus did that don’t really have much bearing on us and our lives 2,000 years later…

“On that day, as evening drew on, [Jesus] said to [his Apostles], ‘Let us cross to the other side.’ Leaving the crowd, they took him with them in the boat just as he was. And other boats were with him. A violent squall came up and waves were breaking over the boat, so that it was already filling up.”
(Mark 4:35-37)

Now, this part of the story you’ve probably heard many times before, so let’s speed through what happens next: 1) The Apostles freak out; 2) They wake up Jesus; 3) Jesus calms the storm; 4) The Apostles are super impressed.
Let’s keep going:

“They came to the other side of the sea, to the territory of the Gerasenes. When he got out of the boat, at once a man from the tombs who had an unclean spirit met him. The man had been dwelling among the tombs, and no one could restrain him any longer, even with a chain. In fact, he had frequently been bound with shackles and chains, but the chains had been pulled apart by him and the shackles smashed, and no one was strong enough to subdue him. Night and day among the tombs and on the hillsides he was always crying out and bruising himself with stones.”
(Mark 5:1-5)

So when Jesus gets to the other side of the sea, there’s a crazy, possessed, naked man waiting for him. A man that cannot be subdued, restrained or shackled. But Jesus is not afraid. He’s not even freaked out. He walks right up the man and casts the demons out of the man and into a nearby herd of pigs. The pigs (two thousand of them) run themselves off a cliff, into the water and drown.

When news of this miracle spread and people began to gather … Jesus and his Apostles climbed back into their boat to leave.

“As [Jesus] was getting into the boat, the man who had been possessed pleaded to remain with him. But [Jesus] would not permit him but told him instead, ‘Go home to your family and announce to them all that the Lord in his pity has done for you.’

Then the man went off and began to proclaim in the Decapolis what Jesus had done for him; and all were amazed.” 
(Mark 5:18-20)

Before we can redefine the win, before we can redefine success in youth ministry, let’s talk about what it’s not.

It’s Not About What’s Comfortable or Consistent

Back at the beginning of the story, Jesus invites His Apostles to come with Him to “the other side”. He is inviting them to cross the Sea of Galilee with Him, but there’s way more to the invitation than it sounds. The Sea of Galilee formed an important border: On the west (where the story begins) is the Jewish side; On the east is the pagan side. Jews did not dare set foot on the pagan side of the sea, to do so would make them unclean.

Jesus and His Apostles got in their boat and left everything they knew, everything they were comfortable with and everyone who thought, believed and acted like them. They left their comfort zone.

Far too often in ministry we stick to our comfort zones. We stick to what we already know. We stick to what we’ve always been doing. Maybe because we think it’s successful, but more often than not, it’s just because it’s what we’ve always done. For some reason, we feel the need to be consistent. For some reason, we’ve become so afraid of change. But it’s not about what’s comfortable and consistent.

It’s Not About What’s Easy

It had been a long day. Teaching huge crowds of people is draining. By the end of the day, Jesus was mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted. It would have been easy to just call it a day, go home, throw on some pajama pants, lay down on the couch and watch something stupid on Netflix. And even if that’s how the day ended, Jesus still could have chalked it up as a successful day. Because He had reached multitudes with his message.

But He didn’t take the easy way out. He climbed in the boat, crossed the sea, and continued His ministry. Because there was a need to be filled.

How often do we just stick to what’s easy? How often are we satisfied doing the bare minimum? I’ve talked to so many youth ministers who’s ministry has become just a job. They clock in, do whatever work has to get done that day, clock out and head home.

Yeah, doing the bare minimum is easy. But it’s not about what’s easy.

It’s Not About What’s Safe

This naked, possessed, crazy man was not “safe” company. He had broken shackles and chains and it says that no one could subue him. I mean, come on, just the fact that they felt the need to restrain him in a cemetery should send up big red “danger” flags. The man was “bruising himself with stones”!

He was a dangerous wacko, but that didn’t keep Jesus away. He wasn’t worried about what was safe.
Ministry isn’t safe. It’s not neat and clean. Ministry is messy. Both the lives and the rooms teenagers are messy.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s definitely safer to stay out of their lives. But with so many teens broken, hurting and crying out for help…youth ministry is not about what’s safe.

It’s Not About The Crowd

Jesus left the crowd of adoring fans to head to a place where NO ONE adored Him. Did you catch that? He left a place where everyone loved Him, and went to a place where no one even knew him! And after He had performed a miracle there and the crowds started showing up, He climbed back into His boat and left.

Jesus wasn’t concerned about his popularity or selling out stadiums. He knew that it’s not about the crowd. It’s not about the glory.

That’s hard for a lot of us youth ministers to accept…myself included. We love crowds. We love big numbers. We love running programs that fill up youth rooms. We love when we have to have a waiting list for a retreat or a trip. We love when people tell us how good of a job we’re doing. We love going to places where everyone knows who we are. That’s success right?

But it’s not about the crowd. It’s not about the recognition. It’s not about the glory.

So then what is it about?

It’s About One Person

Jesus left the crowd, got into a boat, crossed the sea, calmed the storm, cast out demons…All of it, everything … for ONE PERSON. He stepped out of His comfort zone for one person. He skipped the easy path for one person. He refused to play it safe for one person. He left the crowds in search of one person.
Jesus is modeling love for us. He’s modeling ministry for us.

Is your ministry about one person? Is it about reaching out to that one teen who is across the sea, far from God, shackled and broken? Or are you focused on the crowd?

Are you doing whatever it takes to reach that hurting student? Or are you playing it safe? Are you going out of your way to love on him, or are you just doing what’s easy, just settling for the bare minimum.

For far too long we’ve defined success based on numbers. The size of our group. The size of our budget. The size of our youth room.

But none of those numbers matter as long as there are students in your community who are far from God. Who are not being reached. Not being loved. Not being served, included, welcomed, encouraged.

Jesus is modeling ministry for us. He’s showing us what’s important. He’s redefining the win.

Now, I don’t want to leave you thinking that this is just a great theory for youth ministry, but not one that could be put into practice. I mean, chances are there are just too many students in your community for you to pour life into each one of them, one on one. I get that. But don’t let that stop you.

Yeah maybe you can’t reach out and pour into each student, but don’t use that as an excuse to reach out to none.

Capitalize on the time you do have, prioritize so you have more, and go out of your way to be where they are…wherever that is for the teens in your community.

When you’re with students, really be with them.

Not on your phone, not scrambling around getting things setup, not scrolling through Facebook or Twitter, not thinking about all the things you have to do back in your office.

You need to start considering the time you have with your students as precious. Show them how important they are to you. Tell them how much you love them. Tell them you believe in them. Encourage them. Let them know that God has called them to do great things. And always be willing to leave crowd, when you see a student alone or hurting.
And if you do that, just like Jesus modeled ministry for you, you are modeling ministry for them.

So how do I define the win in youth ministry?

When the teens you’re ministering to start ministering to others. That’s a win.

When your students start bringing their friends to church because they feel loved and encouraged there…and they know that whoever they bring will be just as loved and welcomed. That’s a win.

When you see students leave a group of friends to go talk to a student that’s sitting alone. That’s a win.

When the teens want to spend all their time at church because that’s where they feel the presence and the love of God. That’s a win.

When the lives of students are transformed by a one-on-one encounter with Christ. That’s a win.

When all they want to do is share their faith with others. When they’re hungry for resources on how to do that. When they want to know how they can better evangelize at their school. That’s a win.

I don’t know if you caught it, but at the end of the story, after Jesus did all this for that one man, “the man went off and began to proclaim…what Jesus had done for him; and all were amazed.”

His encounter with Christ transformed Him from a man far from God into and evangelist who was sharing the Gospel and bringing other people to God. That’s a win.

Michael Marchand

Michael is a Catholic evangelist, author and speaker.

After spending 11 years as a parish youth minister, Michael left parish ministry to work full-time with ProjectYM (a ministry he cofounded a few years earlier).

Michael's resume also includes preaching gigs at events and conferences around the world, a Catholic theology degree, authoring a book on Catholic evangelization, years of training and consulting with parish/diocesan leaders on technology and social media, countless online projects, and the founding of 2 ProjectYM mission bases: one in Uganda and one in Chattanooga, TN.

Michael is blessed to be part of an amazing missionary family. Michael, his beautiful wife (Crystal) and three kids recently settled in Chattanooga to serve the local Church there.

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